tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8092294982332384780.post9138132433124635565..comments2023-03-21T05:49:55.471-04:00Comments on Supermom's Homeschool Blog: Relationships Before Rules (or, What Went Wrong? if your kids didn't turn out to be Just. Like. You.)Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8092294982332384780.post-37156805324502450222013-07-09T16:30:16.485-04:002013-07-09T16:30:16.485-04:00Such a good post. We have four kids, and three of ...Such a good post. We have four kids, and three of them are aged 16 - 20. I see so much of this in my own life, where I've had to just 'suggest' to one of them that 'maybe they could think about this .... '. Often times, I realize they've taken that advice - after a wee while - when they've thought the thing through themselves.<br /><br />I've seen it happen with one daughter and make-up - wearing more than looked nice. It can be tempting to say, 'Go wash that off!', but instead, I would occasionally give a wee tip on how maybe to apply x around the eyes, or y on the lips. Gradually, I've seen the amount of make-up decrease to what is much more attractive. Better that she came to that herself, though, rather than my 'forcing' my level of make-up on her.<br /><br />We have had some more major issues (not 'major*, I guess, by other people's standards, but things that were sin), and I am thankful that even in dealing with these, the children saw unconditional love. After all, what grace my Saviour has shown ME ... how can we not show it to our children?Homeschool on the Crofthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03400742529025230433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8092294982332384780.post-32305139574959736932013-07-08T09:07:06.546-04:002013-07-08T09:07:06.546-04:00"They are seeing how you talk about people th..."They are seeing how you talk about people that you disagree with." I hadn't thought of it like this before, but I think you're on to something huge here. I talk to a ton of kids who can't/won't talk to their parents. Why? I think a big part of it is that they know--from watching--that their parents are not the kind of people you want to talk to. This is most assuredly not merely a homeschool parent problem.<br /><br />Great post.<br /><br /> ~LukeLuke Holzmannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07799632321310461828noreply@blogger.com